By Caro March 28, 2025
Some men take their role as “head of the household” very seriously and may believe they are indispensable to their partner. But this is not the case, and this realignment is a blessing for both partners.
We all need each other. God created us as social beings. Even those with introverted personalities need some human contact at some point. To say we don’t need anyone is, of course, an exaggeration. We are, all together, the Body of Christ, each with their own role, supporting one another.
Some women loudly proclaim that they don’t need men to survive. And those who repeat this to anyone who will listen sometimes do so with a derogatory attitude toward men. They don’t want to be seen as weak and defenseless. They are strong and independent, and they want to make it known. So it’s not exactly this statement that repels single men, but the attitude behind it. No one likes to feel useless or insignificant. Women who display this arrogance shouldn’t be surprised if they remain single! It’s indeed an attitude that destroys the social bridge to another individual.
But the statement itself is not false. A woman can live very well without getting married. Like all single people, some of a woman’s desires will go unfulfilled, but God will always take care to meet all the needs of His children. He even pays special attention to single people, knowing full well that they depend even more on Him. Many women live much longer than their husbands; they don’t die as soon as they pass away, so the proof is there: a woman doesn’t need a man to live.
Men must keep this reality in mind when entering into a relationship with a woman. Yes, a woman can very well live without a man, so if she prefers to share her life with a man, he should receive her attention as a privilege. If a woman says she needs a man to live, that she is helpless living alone, this will not lead to a healthy relationship and is a “red flag,” a signal that they should not marry. Although man has received the gift from God to be the head of his home, God has not delegated His power of salvation to him! Jesus is the Savior, not man. God has given gifts and talents to both women and men. If a woman pursues her calling and takes good care of her affairs, it doesn’t mean she prefers to remain alone. It means she will be a blessing to her future husband because he won’t have to constantly take care of her and save her from storms. She will stand by his side and be a valuable help to him (Proverbs 31). A man should not be afraid of an independent woman; rather, he should see her as a blessing.
To please a man, a woman doesn’t need to pretend to be a princess dependent on her Prince Charming. She can be independent while still valuing her partner’s strengths. She only needs to return to the source, to the position God gave to women since the beginning of creation: to be a helper. A woman can be independent without becoming arrogant by helping those around her, by putting her strengths at the service of others. Another way to remain independent without becoming arrogant is to value men’s strengths. Even before marriage, this means elevating and respecting a man’s masculinity.
In short, men, don’t feel humiliated if your partner doesn’t seem to need you. If she takes care of all her own affairs, she will be a blessing to you! And women, don’t pretend to be a damsel in distress just to keep your partner. You can be independent while maintaining a servant-like and complementary spirit.